Great insight Nikki. Softer may often times be better and in many cases may not be a lie, simply a washed down version of how we feel. Thanks for joining the conversation.

Thanks Kebba and you bring up a great example (santa sweater) that we all find ourselves in from time to time. I have tried to get creative when in situations like you have described … “This will be a great sweater to wear on Christmas eve.” Well it would, wouldn’t it? No simple solution – we just need to try and be authentic and hope for the best.

I really appreciate you comments Johann. And I know you well enough to say that being vulnerable and real are two of your greatest traits. Thanks for your continued support my friend.

That said, on small social matters, I think it’s important to be kind, like when someone asks how you like their new Santa sweater, and you hate Santa sweaters and that one looks hideous on that person. A gentle sidestep like, “wow, cheery!” is often called for. People need to know they can count on us to be kind, gracious and supportive, in addition to being integrous and productive. But you probably have covered that in other articles.

Thanks for another great post! You rock!